Attleboro mom, domestic violence survivor competes in three marathons in 24 hours to end abuse

Andrea Piscopo, 40, from Attleboro stands in front of marathon daffodils with her bibs for the marathons on April 13, 2019. Photo by K. Sophie Will/BU News Service

By K. Sophie Will
BU News Service

BOSTON — When Andrea Piscopo steps up to the start line on Monday morning, she won’t be thinking about all the nights she was jolted awake to horrific violence by the hands of her ex-boyfriend. She won’t be thinking about how she doesn’t have a 401k at 40 years old because she spent every penny of it to get custody of her two children. And she definitely won’t be thinking about the three-hour deposition where the very core of her motherhood, and personhood, was questioned.

The one and only thing she’ll be thinking as she leaps over the blue and yellow letters on her way to Boston is “right foot, left foot.”

Piscopo, an Attleboro resident by way of Boston, is spending her weekend running three marathons, often called the “Trifecta” — The Tough Ruck, Boston’s Midnight Ride and the Boston Marathon — all in 24 hours.

Why? To raise money to end domestic violence with New Hope, the Massachusetts-based charity that helped her leave her abuser in 2013.

“Domestic violence is insidious,” she said, “I was stuck between how you care about this person and you just want the abuse to stop.”

After the birth of her son in 2010, Piscopo was desperate for a way to cope with her abusive situation. As she was already a weight-lifter, she decided to face one thing she was never good at — running.

“What was a way to deal with the emotional stress became very liberating and empowering,” she said.

In the past nine years, Piscopo has run about 20 marathons with this Monday’s race being her fourth Boston Marathon.

“It isn’t that bad”

Yet, her abuse still haunts her and her family to this day as her post-traumatic stress has manifested itself in her daily life. She hates crowds and loud noises, looks for at least two exits when she enters a room and moved her court paperwork to a friend’s house because it was causing her so much distress.

When Piscopo realized she was in an abusive relationship in 2010, it took her years to leave. After two children –a then-two-year-old girl and a newborn baby boy– and nearly four years with her partner, Piscopo started googling domestic violence hotlines. She stumbled upon New Hope’s phone number: 800-323-HOPE.

“I stared at that phone number for weeks,” she said. “I realized I had to talk to a real person about what was happening and be very vulnerable.”

New Hope, Inc. is a non-profit organization with a simple vision — that “every person has the right to live a life free of violence and exploitation,” their website says.

The charity offers a confidential 24-hour hotline, emergency shelter, counseling, community-based advocates who can specifically help with restraining orders, supervised visitation, housing stabilization and a civilian police advocate.

During her first group counseling session, which she attended while on a long lunch break from work, Piscopo kept saying “it really isn’t that bad.”

“It wasn’t until an older woman looked at me and said: “Embrace your horror for everything that it is,” that it hit me. Nobody ever told me I was in an abusive relationship,” Piscopo said.

Now, she shares that saying with other survivors of abuse whenever she can. That, and she tells them to not use drugs or alcohol to numb the pain.

“When we escape, the problems are still there,” Piscopo said. “It’s like if you leave dirty dishes in your sink and then you go on vacation. Yeah you’re going to have fun but when you come back you still have to do the dishes.”

The Heartbreak Hill’s of life

To Piscopo, getting through a marathon is a lot like getting through life — the energy and support propel her through the rough times and to the finish line.

“I have to rely on everybody else to get me out,” she said. “The Boston Marathon is the most exciting but the hardest. The energy is just different, it keeps me going.”

And when the going gets tough, she recites the tattoo on her left foot — an excerpt from the poem Stopping by Woods on a Snowy Evening by Robert Frost.

“I love that poem… “But I have promises to keep, and miles to go before I sleep,”” Piscopo recited and trailed off with a smile on her face.

Mostly when she’s running, Piscopo puts on some music and starts counting.

“I listen to military cadence during the two on foot marathons,” she said. “It puts me somewhere special. That, and a lot of rap… I count a lot, it becomes a game as I’m subconsciously sorting through stuff.”

Competing in the three races is not just for personal growth, and certainly not the accompanying aches and pains that come with the trifecta.

“Stories of abuse are all the same, it’s just different names and faces.” Piscopo said. “I’m hoping it helps someone. It’s really hard to be vulnerable, but if one person sees it and it makes them realize they can do this, then it’s worth it.”

Miles to go…

As of Monday morning, Piscopo raised $4,750 for New Hope as a way to “pay it forward” for their role in her life.

On the fundraising page, Kerri Hayes, a contributor, wrote: “Those restless nights worrying about you and your safety are gone. Tonight, I will happily lose sleep thinking about you enjoying your peaceful midnight ride through Boston. You are a beautiful soul. You and your journey has and will continue to inspire so many. I love you Andi!”

Piscopo had a loose goal of finishing the races on foot under 6 hours, but finished the Tough Ruck in seven hours and 14 minutes while carrying 35 pounds.


Andrea Piscopo, 40, from Attleboro poses with her finishing medal from the Tough Ruck marathon on April 14, 2019. Photo by K. Sophie Will/BU News Service

“Slower than last year, the heat killed me!” she wrote in a text after the race. “[Taking a] quick nap before I head back in.”

As for the Midnight Ride, Piscopo finished in two hours and 45 minutes.

And as her tired legs cross those yellow and blue letters in Copley Square on Monday, after running and biking nearly 80 miles in 24 hours, Piscopo will only be thinking one thing:

“I f—— did it.”

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